How To Tell If You Are In A Toxic Relationship

valentine's day gift guide

Do you find yourself making excuses to not see a friend? Does your relationship with your friend get you down? Does your friendship leave you feeling drained? Top London Life Coach, Carole Ann Rice reveals 5 signs that you’re in a toxic relationship and how to deal with it:
1. LIVING IN DREAD – you dread meeting the other person and you don’t like spending time with them. Whether you are going out to a family meeting or out for dinner with a friend – if you’re worried about seeing them – it’s a red flag. A relationship should be a positive experience, if they make you feel uncomfortable then minimise the time you spend with them.
2. BELITTLING – although joking about and laughing is a healthy part of a relationship, if they make you the butt of the jokes constantly and belittle you, it’s a bad sign. These things are sure to slowly wear you down and make you feel badly about yourself when you don’t deserve it.
3. DON’T CARE – they don’t care about you or are not interested in what you have to say, they’re only interested in off-loading their own problems onto you. If they don’t ask you anything about yourself, it shows that they’re only using you as a way to blow off steam or vent to. A relationship is meant to be a two-way street and if they refuse to listen when you want to talk – it isn’t healthy.
4. NOT SORRY – they constantly do things and don’t apologise for it. Your time is valuable and worthy of consideration, so if your friend is always turning up late or showing you up, something needs to change. If you’ve purposely set aside time and they can’t appreciate that, then you need to take a stand. Once is an accident but on more than one occasion is definitely part of a toxic relationship.
5. YOU’RE UNABLE TO CHANGE – they dampen your success by refusing to cooperate with your wants, putting down your plans and goals, and outright prevent you from doing what you want to do. Your success is equally as important as you are and is a big part of what makes you special. If someone is preventing you from being a better person, it’s a sign that the relationship is unhealthy.


1. Make a stand – don’t be complacent because it is only enabling their bad behaviour. It’s important that you take responsibility and be the force to change the situation. Tell them calmly and amicably how their behaviour has made you feel and that you will not tolerate it. If they do not change, you will have to cut them out of your life.
2. Educate them – often toxic people tend to be unaware of themselves. The pain that they can cause others will continue on as they don’t know they are doing it. Unfortunately, it’s quite likely that they are unchangeable – we have to move on and change ourselves. We can’t change them, but we can change how we react to their behaviour.

Carole Ann Rice from Real Coaching Co is one of the UK’s leading life coaches and personal development experts. She helps people all around the world discover the best version of themselves. Much of her work involves focusing on the here and now and is different to what you may experience in therapy. Life coaching is all about goal-setting and implementing techniques to achieve success and true happiness. Carole Ann, Winner of Best Coach in the Best Business Women’s Awards 2017, works with her clients to improve relationships, diet, energy, health and well-being and confidence. Carole Ann’s clients are empowered – as she believes in you even when you don’t! She’s 100% committed to your success and offers continued support every step of the way. You can find out more at:

More from Becky
Small Garden Ideas | Stylish Accessories For Bijoux Spaces
Small garden ideas can often be the hardest to come up with,...
Read More

Leave us your comments...

This site uses Akismet to reduce spam. Learn how your comment data is processed.