A divorce can be extremely stressful to navigate. Following the breakdown of a relationship, emotions inevitably run high. However, by separating the emotion and the legal process, it can be possible to reach an agreement that’s acceptable to both individuals without the need to go to court.
If you want to try to find a resolution while remaining amicable, bear the following factors in mind.
Choose the right team of professionals
The easiest way to create separation between your emotions and the legal process is to hire a family law solicitor who understands the importance of collaboration in divorce. This ensures that as well as working in your best interests, they’ll do what they can to keep the divorce from going to court.
Other benefits of hiring a solicitor include:
- Having the paperwork explained: Divorce can be an administrative minefield, so having a law firm to make everything clear to you can save significant time and stress.
- Getting objective advice: It’s always helpful to get insight from a legal expert who isn’t emotionally involved in the situation.
- Ensuring you get your fair share: It can be easy to forget certain assets or give up more than you need to for an easy life – but a solicitor won’t let this happen.
Understand your finances
Because your assets will have to be split, you need to know how much money you have and how it is split up. If your financial literacy is on the weaker side, you’re not alone – 39% of UK adults don’t feel confident managing money. Try to get a handle on your situation ahead of time and consider speaking to a financial advisor if you still can’t wrap your head around things.
Process your feelings
Everyone has their own way of dealing with emotions. As hard as it is, you must get them under control for a collaborative divorce to be successful.
If you go into a divorce with revenge on your mind, you’ll likely only drag out the process and cost yourself and your former partner more money.
Set a tone of kindness
Kindness and collaboration go hand in hand. It may not always be easy, but making it clear you want to proceed in a respectful way from the off is important.
Whether it’s taking the high road on particular issues or providing space and time to consider certain aspects, stay true to your words and hopefully they’ll be reciprocated.
Consider your children
It’s always tough when children are involved. While you may no longer be partners, you’re still linked as parents. A collaborative divorce ensures that the people closest to your children decide what happens next, not a court.
Knowing that you need to put your children first can make it easier to get through the process smoothly.
